Well… are you asking me? Because if so, then I will ask you, “Which time are you referring to? Over the course of my adult life, I have lost and regained so much weight that I lost track.”
This blog is going to touch on a subject that MANY women struggle with. I am expecting a little bit of backlash and uproar from it, but this blog is the raw truth, so I say: BRING IT ON. I’m ready to stand my ground.
I never ask anyone the question of how much weight have you lost. Why? Because truthfully- what if they have lost inches and no pounds- so what did I do? I just now set them up to feel bad about their success. HELLO?!? I wanted to uplight not tear down, yet I did in 6 words. Yikes. Not the goal, right? I instead always- and I literally mean- ALWAYS say: I can tell you have lost weight, you look great.
I don’t give 2 $hits how much they lost. I only care that they are doing better on their health and fitness journey. I care that they are off prescription meds. I care that they are stronger. I care that their clothes fit better. That number on the scale? Useless to me. It doesn’t dictate my compliment to someone.
I have a dear friend who has been through hell & back- and she got the t shirt and keychain to go with it 😉 She has struggled with her weight for years. Lately, she has been going through this. She is getting asked, “how much weight have you lost” – and truthfully, over the past 6 months, she hasn’t lost a pound. Yet, she is stronger, she is faster, she feels better, she is working out more, she is hiking, she is teaching LIVE TDF Boot Camps, and she has gained confidence. So I ask you- does that scale really matter after I tell you all of that?!? Let’s just say, hypothetically, she had lost 20 lbs but wasn’t able to hold her head up and look herself in the mirror because she has lost it with an eating disorder. Would you STILL be happy for her? Be honest. Aren’t you more impressed than in these 6 months she has regained confidence, hasn’t given up, worked out 3-4 times per week, and is still saying-
“Yes world. I’m still here. Whatcha gonna throw at me today?”
Numbers don’t impress me.
I want to see real change. That scale doesn’t define real in my eyes. All of my clients know that I ask for measurements, pictures, and an account for how they feel each week. I don’t care so much for the weight loss. Happiness isn’t defined by your scale.
Are you hungry? Here, I have lunch for you:
Girls, if this blog applies to you- forget your scale. It is demon spawned. Trust in the process and know, that your scale isn’t part of your process. It can’t tell you that your organs are functioning better or that your depression is gone thanks to being physically active. It can only tell you what your gravitational pull to the Earth is…and who cares about that?!?
Lesson #10234 from me- your self worth, your happiness, your hope, your physical fitness, your love, and your dreams aren’t going to be given to you when you look down at that number on the scale. #DropsMic
ps- please visit my friend Broken Cycle Fitness and if you would, offer her a kind word of encouragement. She could use it today <3
Love you all big-