I love my family more than anything.
They are my life force.
They are my reason for breathing.
They are my heartbeat.
I am most happy at home with them, curled up with a blanket, and on my couch with my 2 yorkie babies laying next to me. Those moments are the ones I look most forward to in my life.
I am however, like many other moms and wives who have a job that requires frequent travel (typically 1 weekend a month). It’s just the nature of the industry I chose for my career, there isn’t anything I can do to change it, nor would I because I love my work. I didn’t begin my career in this profession expecting I would be traveling as much as I do, but I don’t regret it either. I view it as an honor that I am requested to visit those who follow TDF. While leaving my family is tough personally, the people in the TDF community are valuable to me so I typically travel 1 weekend a month to visit different locations. I consider it a blessing they want to meet me (even though, I’m nothing special. I’m just Crystal). With that said, leaving my family isn’t easy but I have set rules in place that helpease the mommy and wife guilt that I tend to carry around. Luckily my husband and son are very supportive of my position as the owner of Train Dirty Fitness, so that makes it easier on my heavy heart. Each time I leave, my husband tells me it’s important I go because women need me and he will be here when I return. My son reminds me not to forget his souvenir. They both make me smile at their goodbye rituals, because that is their way of telling me they will be ok while I’m gone and I dont need to worry.
I do have rules that I set for myself and them when I travel, because if momma ain’t happy – ain’t nobody happy 😉 These little rules keep me grounded no matter where I am, reminding me that my heart is in TN.
Here you go, my Travel Like A Mom Boss rules:
1. Call home every morning and night. It doesn’t mater what time zone I am in or what shift my husband is working- this is our rule. He has to be the first person I speak to when I wake up and the last voice I hear before I close my eyes.
2. Schools out, call mom. My son knows he has to text (if I am in a meeting) or call me immediately after school. I want to know how his day went, does he have homework, did he miss me (duh, of course he did), and that he is picked up safely. I realize that my “baby” will be 15 years old in a few days, but let’s be real: I love him no less now at 170lbs than I did the first time I held him at 8lbs. His happiness and safety will always be my top priority.
3. Usies are a requirement. I love to take usies (selfies but with “us”) of my son and my hubby. I have to tell you- they hate when I pull out my camera and starting griping immediately 😉 They know how important usies are to me, so they send me 1 a day while I’m gone (normally it’s of them eating food they know I don’t approve of. See #4 for explanation).
4. Milkshakes everyday. I always prep 2-3 days worth of food before I leave so they don’t have to worry about meals. I am pretty sure though, I do this just for myself because it never fails I come back to find empty milkshake cups in my husband’s car. My son always thinks it’s funny to “tell on Daddy” and let me know they ate Taco Bell every night for supper. So where does the food I made go?!? That is the Bermuda Triangle of my house apparently because no one can answer that question and look me in the eye. The reason I don’t get upset? For them, their “thing” to do while I am gone is to eat fast food like it’s not allowed. So I let them keep thinking I am upset because they laugh about it like they are rebels of the household 😛
5. Carry something tangible. My son gave me a tiny little pink hard plastic dog when he was 5 when I left for my first business trip. I take it with me every time I leave and he checks to make sure it is in my bag. This little toy dog reminds him that no matter where I go, I will think of him. My husband gives me his wedding ring right before I leave. It matches non of my clothing, never goes with my accessories, and is so big I wear it on my thumb- but I wouldn’t leave home without it. When I leave his last words are: you have to come back, you have my ring. Me taking his wedding ring gives him the comfort that I have something very special to him with me at all times.
6. Open and close my door. My husband walks me to my car and closes my door before I leave. The last thing I see before I drive off is his him waving at me. When I return, I am always greeted with him standing outside the front of my condo so he is the first thing I see when I arrive.
7. Put me on speaker phone. I have 2 yorkie babies and if you follow me on social media- you know, these babies are very precious to me. Bella (my older yorkie) was rescued in 2011 so she knows I am gone often and doesn’t get too upset. Bentley (the teacup yorkie) was rescued in July 2014 so he is still learning that mommy isn’t leaving him forever. When I leave him, it’s a bit of a struggle to get him to be a good boy so my husband puts me on speaker phone 1-2 times while I’m gone and let’s me send them love. My favorite part of this rule? I can hear my husband and son laughing in the background at me giving sweet talks to my yorkies. Their laughter makes me smile quicker than anything.
These are my traveling rules and how I travel like a mom boss. I hope at least one of these will help all you moms/wives out there who struggle with guilt that we put on ourselves. Just remember, no matter where you go- your heart is at home <3
Big hugs and luv,